The guest list: how to decide who to invite without arguments
The guest list is the hardest decision — and the one that moves the budget the most. A clear method saves months of negotiation between families.
Start with the number, not the names
First decide how many people fit the budget and the venue; only then fill in the list. Done the other way round, the list grows on its own and the bill shows up at the end. A simple trick: split the total into three parts — bride, groom and families — and let each part manage its own quota.
Circles of closeness
Write three lists: circle 1 (those it wouldn't make sense to leave out: close family and lifelong friends), circle 2 (friends and extended family) and circle 3 (colleagues, acquaintances, courtesy invitations). Lock circle 1, weigh circle 2 against the budget, and use circle 3 only if space remains after the RSVPs come in.
Plus-ones, children and the rules that avoid awkwardness
Decide before sending invitations: plus-ones only for established relationships, or for everyone? Children, yes or no? Whatever you choose, apply it to everyone and state it on the invitation and the wedding website — it's inconsistency that causes discomfort, not the rule itself. If you go child-free, suggest alternatives (on-site babysitting, for example).
Plan for no-shows and confirm in time
On average, 10% to 15% of guests end up unable to attend — more if many travel from afar. Send the invitation with a reply deadline and chase those who don't answer: the final number locks the catering cost and the seating plan. In the app, the guest list, RSVPs and reminders live in one place, and confirmations feed the seating plan automatically.